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David Smith

My name is David Shawn Smith and I am an Atlanta Based Executive and Personal Life Coach who has been in the field of human development for more than 15 years. In addition to my experience I have a B.A. In Communications and Rhetoric and M.S. in Leadership and Coaching and certifications in Executive Coaching and Anger Management.

Oprah’s “The Life You Want To Live”

By Atlanta Life Coach Online, Executive Life Coaching, Free Life Coaching, Goal Setting, Life Coach Atlanta News, Life Coach Atlanta Resources, Life Coaching Tools, Online Life Coach Case Studies

Oprah has created a phenomenal eight-city tour this summer. Women and some men are filling stadiums to see and experience her and her team of self-help guru’s. Those who are in attendance are given an opportunity to bask in the Oprah glow for a weekend filled with empowering messages. The attendees are given gift bags and are guided to purchase additional resources in the merchandise area, so they can do the work beyond the weekend. Oprah has assembled a star studded team to drive the message home. The event is “life changing”. Oprah is challenging them to mind their “energy fields and their intentions” and she walks them through a worksheet given within the program and the women take time to fill out their life wheel /cycle. It is a powerful moment to witness the silence/stillness of these 20,000 seat arenas. Each person is wearing a special glow in the dark wrist band which illuminates the entire arena. People are mystified and teary-eyed. Winfrey knows what she is doing. Now, what is next? The weekend is over and the gift bag is emptied and what are people going to do with all they were given?

I Speak Life Coaching has created a powerful five-week audio “Unleashing The Power Within”. This online workshop will take you to the next phase of creating the Life You Want!!! It is free!!! No gimmicks. I will support the work that Oprah started.

Click on the video and get started today. You have the power to move your life forward. You do not have to do it alone.

Thanks

David S. Smith

For Sisters Only, V-103 Atlanta and Mo Ivory/Mo Knows

By Atlanta Life Coach Online, Executive Coaching, Free Life Coaching, Life Coach Atlanta News

For Sisters Only, Atlanta GA, Radio Station V-103

Me with Mo Ivory from V-103.

I was really happy to bring I Speak Life Coaching to the masses. During the event, I was able to share what is a life coach and what are the benefits of a life coach and what are some of the signs in your life that you might need a coach. The discussions covered career choices, relationships, health and goal setting. People are investing in their lives in a meaningful way and hiring a coach seems to be a part of that investment.

I Speak Life offered free 30 minute consultations to all who came by the table and we also offered them a free five week course ” Unlocking the Fire Within.”

Take a look at the pictures and you can see that we represented well here in Atlanta and we look forward to sharing more with the community in the near future.

Leave me a comment.

See you soon!!!

David

I Speak Life Coaching

I Know What You Did This Summer

By Atlanta Life Coach Online
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Well it’s the last week of summer which means its getting time to put the boat away, send the kids to school, get the grill ready for tailgating, and get ready for the holidays.

It also means that it’s time to assess the last quarter of the year.

Have you been thinking about how the year has just flown? Does it feel like the kids are growing up so fast? Do you sometimes sit and wonder how time waits for no one? These thoughts are what drives us to move through life with grace or with regrets.

Tina turner who turned 73 this year and she decided it was time to marry and put her life in order. The rock star took the time to make the important decisions around life, love and legacy. She made up her mind that the next act of her life will be about “pleasure.”

In order for us to come to terms with who we are, we must develop a deep belief in ourselves. I will let Tina Turner sing us into the next quarter of the year. The song “Simply The Best”, is the message for us on this day. We are simply the best woman, man, friend, lover, partner and human being on this planet.

I know what you did this summer, you forgot to put yourself on the list. You managed your career, your children, took care of parents, but somehow forgot to take care of you. Good news, you still have time to place you at the top of the list.

You are the best and like Tine Turner sings “Simply The Best.”

Have a great rest of the summer.

I Speak Life Coaching

Tech Firms Dell, and Google uses coaches for young CEOs.

By Business Coaching, Executive Coaching, Executive Life Coaching, Life Coach Atlanta News, Life Coach Atlanta Resources

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These stats are from a Stanford University/The Miles Group survey released this month, which asked 200 CEOs, board directors, and other senior executives questions about how they receive and view leadership advice. I asked the survey’s co-authors, Stanford Graduate School of Business’ David Larcker and The Miles Group CEO Stephen Miles some questions about what they found and how it applies to CEO coaching specifically. An edited version of our exchange is below.

Why is getting coaching from outside the company important?

Blind spots are less obvious when things are going well. It is very easy for executives to become almost strictly inward looking, especially when they have been very successful. But these blind spots can become devastating when performance moves in the other direction. A good, neutral third party assessment is a clear reality check for executives.

Additionally, every single person inside the company has an agenda of some sort. This makes the coaching environment a rare and safe place to think through various topics against the framework of what is in the CEO’s best interest. The coach is only concerned with the CEO’s wild success as the leader of the company.

In your survey, CEOs say the area they most want to develop is in conflict resolution. Why?

Conflict management is critical in the CEO role — just about anything that gets to the CEO’s desk has an element of pleasing someone and making someone else unhappy. When the CEO avoids conflict, it can shut down the whole organization: decisions are not made and problems fester, creating a domino effect of unproductive behaviors down the ladder. A CEO who can manage and channel conflict in a constructive way can get to the root of issues, apply rigor to the team’s thinking, and, ultimately drive the best outcomes. So cultivating this skill can be a powerful tool to help the entire organization.

The survey also reveals that nearly two-thirds of CEOs do not receive coaching or leadership advice from outside consultants. What’s behind that?

There is still some residual stigma that coaching is somehow “remedial,” as opposed to something that enhances high performance, similar to how an elite athlete uses a coach. But there really is not a single top athlete who does not have a coach. CEOs should not be insecure about this issue, and instead see coaching as a tool for improving their already high performance.

Part of this stigma comes from board members themselves, many of whom grew up in an era when coaching was truly remedial and not something in which a CEO would ever voluntarily engage. So even CEOs who believe in coaching and want to engage have to ensure that they bring these board members in particular along with them on the journey.

So there’s tension between boards and executive teams when it comes to coaching. How does it manifest itself?

Again, when things are going well, there can be a tendency on the part of some CEOs to be less open to feedback and a corresponding “If it ain’t broke…” attitude from the board. If things are going well, boards often feel as if they don’t need to have this difficult conversation with the CEO. Both of these attitudes/approaches are a problem and certainly do happen.

It’s probably not surprising, then, that 79% of CEOs said it was their idea to receive coaching. But should it only be their responsibility, or should it involve others?

Fundamentally, it is a responsibility of both the executive and the board of directors, while a trusted Chief Human Resources Officer can also play an important role. If some of a CEO’s behaviors are truly dysfunctional, these need to be identified and worked on. If the CEO is introspective, he or she will recognize their weaknesses without prodding from the board. However, there are also times when the board says to the CEO: “It might be good to do some personal development on X.” This is a key part of CEO performance evaluation: What things need to be improved?

Many times coaching starts through a partnership with the board of directors on the CEO evaluation, and out of that usually come a few specific actionable development themes that can prompt an advisory relationship with the CEO. It typically does come from both sides, and so boards must be sufficiently up to date to see high performance coaching for what it is, versus being purely remedial. The board can help set the conditions for success.

The CHRO can also be instrumental in setting the stage for CEO coaching, as they are often the ones who originate the idea with the CEO.

Is there any evidence that the things CEOs want to be coached in aren’t areas they need help in, and vice versa?

I think that we should look at the “gaps” between what is being worked on and what weaknesses are highlighted. For example, 23 percent of CEOs are working on their team-building skills, but only 13 percent of directors believe this is an area that needs improvement.

Comparatively, there’s a reluctance to be coached on so-called “soft skills” like motivation, compassion, and persuasion. How important are these, and should CEOs and execs take a closer look at being coached on them?

“Soft skills” have an important place in the CEO toolkit. Skills such as motivation and being able to coach and develop people allow a CEO to build a “complementary leadership structure” at the top of the organization. This kind of organizational design allows the top team members to work more effectively together and on their own, but relies on a CEO who can motivate, inspire, and coach those below him.

Is there a way to be transparent about a CEO being coached without causing shareholder and market panic?

Coaching is a private and personal activity. The fact that your CEO is being coached is not something that would normally be disclosed to shareholders. However, you can certainly imagine situations where something bad happened in the company (unfortunate press coverage, loss of top managers, etc.), and the CEO admits that he/she is responsible and his leadership style was instrumental in the problem, and that he/she is going to work on this weakness. Done in an open and honest manner, this type of disclosure can have a very positive impact on reputation, motivation, and performance in an organization.

Many of the highest performing CEOs disclosed that Peter Drucker advised them. They may have used a different term in that era because of the stigma, but we are now moving clearly into an era where there is less stigma associated with having a coach.

Is there an internal risk for company employees if their CEO or a senior executive is open about getting coaching?

This will be influenced most importantly by the culture of the organization and the delivery of the message. The employees that you want to keep will probably be grateful to hear that a problem is being addressed. However, it is certainly possible that the admission of a need for coaching might be interpreted as a personal weakness of the CEO. This happens all the time in political settings. Matching the message to the employees is essential.

It is also important to not simply see coaching through the lens that there is a “problem.” Many times you are not focused on a problem when coaching someone. Rather, you are advising them on the issues they face — such as the expansion of the leadership team or transforming from a private company CEO to public company CEO — and helping them be even more effective.

Ultimately, is there a relationship between coaching and getting to the top?

This is fairly common in tech firms such as Dell, Google, etc., where coaches/advisors have been brought in to help young CEOs. But Jack Welch is another prominent example of a top business leader who worked with an advisor — Ram Charan — for many years.

In general, where there is a relationship between coaching and getting to the top is when an executive believes in continuous learning and development. The saying “It’s what you learn after you know it all” resonates here. These kinds of chief executives seek out a number of different coaches/advisors who help frame topics for them and play a point of challenge and reflection. CEOs who do this are also triangulating information, and their set of coaches/advisors help frame, challenge, and assimilate all of the information/data.

How should CEOs choose the right outside coaches or advisors?

You need coaches who are very smart, intuitive about business and interpersonal dynamics, neutral in their assessment (i.e., not captured by their client), and can tailor the training to the individual needs (not a canned approach).

A good coach does not make someone feel badly about themselves, but will engage in training so that the CEO gets up the next morning and is excited about trying something new or doing something in a different way.

What did you find most surprising in the report, and what is the actionable takeaway for CEOs and boards?

We were very surprised to learn the low percentage of CEOs who have coaches. The key takeaway for CEOs and boards is that seeking out a coach or advisor is not a sign of a fundamental problem or weakness, but instead a key attribute of being a superior leader. For boards and other stakeholders, they should understand that it could help make the difference between a good organization and a visionary one.

I Speak Life Coaching

Your Apology Is Accepted

By Atlanta Life Coach Online
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We have all been in a position where we had to apologize. The dreaded act of confronting ourselves with our own bad behavior is never easy but it is something we all must do periodically. How do we then make the right heart felt apology? Our patterns may have been to point the blame or make the apology but some how take it back in the same breathe. The apology allows us to own our mistakes but to also clear up any misunderstanding from all parties involved. The author Dream Hampton gives us five steps to an apology.

1. Say I’m Sorry
2. Here’s my understanding of how I hurt you.
3. I will never do this again.
4. Here’s how I’m going to make this right.
5. Please forgive me.

These powerful steps should be a guideline to help us navigate the apology with ease and with care. Also, take a look at the video and see how communication is vital in the art of the apology.

Let me know your thoughts

Dream Big: A Motivational Moment

By Atlanta Life Coach Online, Goal Setting, Life Coach Atlanta Resources, Life Coaching Tools

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Today, take a few moments to think about your life. In this fast paced world, where everything is available to us in an instant, it is getting harder and harder for us to sit with ourselves. Sit and let thoughts come through us and to us from a place of harmony and peace. If, we do contemplate sitting with ourselves we often times recognize how fast our minds are racing. We are always thinking about what needs to be done and what didn’t get done.

I would like to offer you this moment to listen to a powerful video on dreams and not giving up. If, you are the young student trying to figure it all out or the seasoned adult wondering where did all the time go. This video will motivate you to think big and dream big. It is never too late to start again and start a new. Never, give up on what you know in your soul that you must do. The world is waiting on you.

The world needs your gifts and talents. I know you might be in the middle of a divorce or a health scare or you are that artist trying to showcase your work, even so, we need you. You are waiting on you. The world needs you but you need you the most. Get up, shake yourself and let your wildest dreams come forward. Go for it!!!

We need your voice, gifts, talents and your dreams. You can manifest your hearts desire on today and let this video be the starting point to moving yourself forward. Process who you are and what you know to be true about you and move your feet and live your life. Live your life!!!

I want to mention, you will need some tissue because the video will awaken your true nature and you will shed a tear because your Truth is rising to the top.

Enjoy and Dream!!!

Happy Father’s Day Special Message

By Relationships

Hello Friends!!!

It is time to celebrate Father’s Day. The hallmaark cards are being chosen and gifts are being picked out to be sent on this special and food menu’s are being shopped. The holiday is to remind us how special father’s are to us. Fathers whether they were in the home or not , should be celebrated and thought of during this season.

Like many of you, I too have my memories of my “father.” It was perhaps 3 years ago when my sister called to inform me that “our” father would like to speak to me. It was a strange feeling but I took the call without hesitation.

He spoke with a soft voice and called my name with tenderness. It was the first time in my life, that I heard my father’s voice. We had not been in contact my entire life up to this point. Over the years, I have struggled with what that relationship could have been for us. I was hoping for games in the park or him showing me guy stuff to do but I did not have that experience with him. He decided for whatever reason to bail on his family. Father’s Day has always been complicated and complex.

The phone called lasted less than 10minutes. He asked me for forgiveness. I forgave him . Perhaps, as much as I needed him to bless me and assure me, he needed me to release him of his guilt and shame. We both needed each other that day.

I forgave him for not wanting to be a father and choosing a life he thought he needed at the time. I forgave him for not having the skills to parent with my mother. I forgave him!!! I hung the phone up and wept. I forgave him.David

We all have daddy issues. This holiday, take the time to rediscover your father in new ways. Yes, he could have and perhaps he should’ve but the truth of the matter is, he didn’t, forgive him. Free yourself this holiday and let your father be exactly who he is. Father’s Day is always comlicated and complex.

I Speak Life Coaching celebrate the men who has shown all of us love. I personally celebrate Oligh William Conard my grandfather who stepped in and up, when my father stepped out. I thank the men in the barbershop, who allowed me to hang around them and they gave me a quarter or a dollar to run an errand. I thank male teachers who put their arms around me and comforted me when I was bullied and teased. Father’s come in many disguises.

I’m eternally grateful to the men, who took the time to love us all.

Happy Father’s Day

David Shawn Smith/ I Speak Life Coaching

It Is All About You

By Executive Coaching

Organizations are utilizing various methods to help develop their leaders over long period of times by implementing one-on one mentoring, peer coaching, team and executive coaching. Using coaching for development is essential to reach high potentials and in the area of retention. The more the company understands why they are using the coach then the client and the company benefits. Executive Coaching should not be used for disciplinary problems with managers, it is not designed to be a reactionary process or a fixer of bad behavior.

According to the American Management Association organizations use coaches for the following purposes:

1. To improve individual performance/productivity
2. To address leadership development/succession planning
3. To increase individual worker skill levels
4. To improve organizational performance
5. To address specific workplace problems
6. To boost employees engagement
7. To improve retention rates
8. To improve performance of employees whose supervisor is being coached
9. To improve recruitment outcomes

The more defined the reason coaches are being utilized the better results the company will be able to experience.

The coach has to come into this experience with certain skill sets. All coaches are different but they all should posses certain competencies in order to be effect to your organization. Executive Coaching skills should include the following:

1. Building Trust
2. Collaborating
3. Learning
4. Helping
5. Empathy

The above is only met if the coach is doing several things:

1. Effective Questioning: The coach should be curious about the needs of the client and what road blocks they may be experiencing.
2. Active Listening: The coach should not be out talking you, the ego of the coach must decrease in order for the clients needs to increase.
3. Giving Feedback: The coach must give you feedback based upon what you have said and around the goals and measures of the expectations.
4. Motivating: The coach is there to help you and the situation transform through various types of motivation and encouragement.
5. Reflecting: The coach should be able to assist the client by asking them to reflect. Reflecting allows the coach to see what the client gleaned from the session and also give some pointers if areas were missed. This is very important in the session.

Executive coaching is really about you. You are the most important aspect of the coach/client relationship. Your needs, aspirations, goals and concerns are upmost important in Executive Coaching.

I Speak Life Coaching is thrilled to offer these helpful tips to individuals and corporations who are in the market of hiring an executive coach.

A Bright Future For Executive Coaching – Who Uses Them

By Executive Coaching, Life Coach Atlanta News

In today’s society coaches are being used in the area of communications, relationships, finances and health. Increasingly, individuals and corporations are utilizing coaches to help address growth and long-term success for middle managers and executives.

Amid the growth and optimism, the coaching industry is still looked upon with enthusiasm and skepticism. The coaching industry has burst on the scene in recent years with very little regulation and oversight. However, as the industry grows we see that credentials, certifications and experience is being vetted more readily.

Executive coaching according to the American Management Association and the Institute for Corporate Productivity defined Coaching as “a short-to medium term relationship between a manager or senior level and a consultant (internal or external) with the purpose of improving work performance.”

Here at I Speak Life Coaching we wanted to bring credibility to the industry and also answer any lingering questions concerning the field of coaching. Here is what we have discovered through research:

*Coaching is used in abut 50 % of North American companies and 55% for
International companies.
*Coaching will be expanded in about 37% of companies currently not using executive
coaches in the near future.
*Coaching is associated with higher performance.
1. They’re more likely to report that their organizations have higher levels of
success in the area of coaching
2. They’re more likely to say that their organizations are performing well in
the market, as determined by self-reports in the combined areas of revenue.
*Coaching is primarily aimed at boosting individual performance.

“Organizations also employ coaches to help with leader transitions(such as promotions, lateral moves, or international assignments), to retain high potentials
to improve performance that is off track, and to help individuals assess where their career is now and where it may go next.”

If, you or your organization are considering hiring an Executive Coach then consider the above stated facts and include Executive Coaching as part of your long term strategy for growth and retention. Remember, the future looks bright for Executive Coaching.

* American Management Association. Coaching: A Global Study of Successful Practices Current Trends and Future Possibilities 2008-2018*