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It Is All About You

By | Executive Coaching

Organizations are utilizing various methods to help develop their leaders over long period of times by implementing one-on one mentoring, peer coaching, team and executive coaching. Using coaching for development is essential to reach high potentials and in the area of retention. The more the company understands why they are using the coach then the client and the company benefits. Executive Coaching should not be used for disciplinary problems with managers, it is not designed to be a reactionary process or a fixer of bad behavior.

According to the American Management Association organizations use coaches for the following purposes:

1. To improve individual performance/productivity
2. To address leadership development/succession planning
3. To increase individual worker skill levels
4. To improve organizational performance
5. To address specific workplace problems
6. To boost employees engagement
7. To improve retention rates
8. To improve performance of employees whose supervisor is being coached
9. To improve recruitment outcomes

The more defined the reason coaches are being utilized the better results the company will be able to experience.

The coach has to come into this experience with certain skill sets. All coaches are different but they all should posses certain competencies in order to be effect to your organization. Executive Coaching skills should include the following:

1. Building Trust
2. Collaborating
3. Learning
4. Helping
5. Empathy

The above is only met if the coach is doing several things:

1. Effective Questioning: The coach should be curious about the needs of the client and what road blocks they may be experiencing.
2. Active Listening: The coach should not be out talking you, the ego of the coach must decrease in order for the clients needs to increase.
3. Giving Feedback: The coach must give you feedback based upon what you have said and around the goals and measures of the expectations.
4. Motivating: The coach is there to help you and the situation transform through various types of motivation and encouragement.
5. Reflecting: The coach should be able to assist the client by asking them to reflect. Reflecting allows the coach to see what the client gleaned from the session and also give some pointers if areas were missed. This is very important in the session.

Executive coaching is really about you. You are the most important aspect of the coach/client relationship. Your needs, aspirations, goals and concerns are upmost important in Executive Coaching.

I Speak Life Coaching is thrilled to offer these helpful tips to individuals and corporations who are in the market of hiring an executive coach.

How To Create The Ultimate Relationship

By | Life Coach Atlanta News, Online Life Coach Case Studies, Relationships

Tony Robbins is using  powerful tools to help us in our relationships. Relationships are complicated because sometimes we enter them with out a clarity about intimacy, emotional needs and spiritual needs.


We can have all of our needs met on a high level when we bring into them basic tools to enhance our lives. Many times we enter into these unions wanting someone to fulfill us and make us whole.

Tony Robbins helps us to define why we are in the relationship to begin with. He uses basic examples to make this point very clear. Listed below are some of the traits of having a healthy loving relationships.

1. Love

2. Compassion

3. Respect

4. Trust

5. Passion

6. Enjoyment


No More Spanks or Squeezing In That Gut!! This is Your Year

By | Goal Setting, Life Coaching Tools

Goal Setting and Success

Happy New Year, we are excited about what the future holds for you. you ready to move forward with the dreams and hopes you have set forth in the New Year? We here at I Speak Life Coaching would like to give you some simple tools to help you reach all of your goals.


Have you made any declarations for the New Year? Are you ready to thrive? Are you still fussing over those last 10 pounds? Are you still thinking about returning to school? Do you dream but cant seem to execute? Let me say, you are not alone.

In order for you to set the goals and make the declarations, you need a change of mind. This is the year of change, excited, love and expectation. In order for you to catch the wave and move in the right direction, you must change your mind.

You control what goes into your brain and what comes of of your brain. Put in good information and you get good results and the same is true for bad information. The work here is not just on the treadmill or on the business plan but it must involve a reprogramming of your mind.

The fight for greatness starts in the mind and then moves in the greater parts of our lives. You must take charge of what you are thinking and what you believe.
James Allen said ” as a man thinketh so is he”, that statement holds true today. When we begin to align our minds with our thoughts and actions, then we can accomplish all we desire and hope.

Your goals are attainable and you can past by those but in order for you to be apart of this new wave, then you must change your mind and also change your heart.

How To Get Money, Love and Personal Power?

By | Athlete Life Coaching

We are on a journey toward greatness. In this New Year, we hear all about resolutions and revolutions and commercials around weight loss .

All of us love those messages but one major component to changing or recharging your life is your Mind. The mind controls all outcomes. If you think small then your life will be small. Think big and receive big results.


The lesson today is the power of the mind. We have to begin on a mindful level in order for us to eradicate negative and toxic behavior. The work is not about losing the weight or finding the great love but it is in how you think about your life.

Our minds are full of bad information for instance we say sometimes perhaps we are not good enough or we are fat, ugly, too skinny. The mind has to be rid of all those toxic conversations in order for us to attract what we want and desire out of life.

Today, let the real change happen in your mind. Be mindful of what you say to yourself and to others. Begin, with knowing that if you can dream it you can have but you must be willing to also do the work to achieve these goals.

Before, you start a new diet or being that new idea or career, do a mind check. Change your mind and you can change your life.

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Getting Unstuck – How To Keep Moving Forward Despite Adversity

By | Life Coaching Tools

This living your best life stuff is not tougher than I thought it would be. There are days when I feel like I’m doing great work and then there are days when I stand in the mirror and ask myself, what in the world are you doing?

I’m sure you know the feeling of making promises to yourself and then breaking them – like I’m going to lose weight, ha, I’m going to clean out the garage, ha, I’m going to get more training and go for the promotion. Have you ever just felt stuck and unproductive?

No one informed me starting a business would be this challenging. I must confess, business ownership is not for the faint of heart. It is serious work and it pushes all of your buttons.

If you really want to know who you are, strike out on your own, all of who you are will be revealed. Personally, I’ve felt frustrated by the slow turning wheels of success. I sometime feel stuck in this rut and I too have to figure out how to get unstuck.

I made up my mind that failure is not an option. My week is full of glorious surprises and wonderful creations. I get up each day looking for the new thing or the new idea and get down in the dirt and work. The way in which I had to figure out this up and down game was to have my own set of beliefs and tools to help along the way.

There would be no more excuses. No more promises made and not keep them. I’m going to do whatever has to be done and no more complaining but push through till the end.

If you feel like you are stuck in a job, career, relationship, let me offer you up a few tips to help you keep it moving.

4 Tips To Help You Keep Moving:

Change Locations: Each morning I would be at the desk working looking out the same window. I realized that I needed to see people and hear certain noises. So, I get up, get out and change locations. I switch it up and break my routine. I pack up the lap top and leave my place and try not to be seduced by my favorite day time shows.

Get Inspiration: I’m a walker and I love to walk through new neighborhoods in the city. So, each day I find a new path for me to walk and explore.

It is so exciting to find that small business shop which I never noticed while in the car or discover a running creak in a certain tucked behind some dogwood trees. Inspiration can come from any source.

Do It Now: Tomorrow never comes. I would put off task until the next day. Well, I realized the week would have passed and I’m still not done what I promised myself. Do what needs to be done today. Tomorrow mind set is not for winners.

Seek Truth: If any of you are like me, I can spend an enormous amount of time alone. It is not good to have someone you do not check in with from time to time.

I have built my “truth” commission who tells me the truth and helps me grow in the most important areas of my life. Find you someone who you can be accountable to in this process.

I hope me sharing my journey to personal freedom has helped in anyway. Send me a note and let me know how you get unstuck.

Atlanta Life Coach Share Ideas For Fall Goal Setting

By | Free Life Coaching, Goal Setting, Life Coaching Tools

Planting Good Seeds And Setting Goals In The Fall For Your Harvest


Hi everyone. In this video, I would like to send a personal Fall greeting to all of my YouTube subscribers, my Facebook friends and fans, and most of all, my personal and group coaching clients.

Fall is a special time of the year. Many of us waste the opportunity to consciously think about the seeds that we want to plant for the Spring.

Many of us have planted seeds of negativity, lack, scarcity, and mistrust and mis-trust in ourselves. No more. Today is the day to think about the seeds that you want to plant this fall, like a farmer. We must be proactive and co-create to reap the harvest we want.

Set your intentions and set them well.

Plant the seeds and strategize today what you want to see in the coming months in your life and for your family and loved ones.

Take good care and please e-mail me and let me know what kinds of seeds you’re planting or leave your comments below.

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Atlanta Anger Management – 5 Ways To Deal With Anger

By | atlanta anger management, how to deal with anger, Online Life Coach Case Studies

Anger can be managed and it can lead to a more positive outcome for all involved. As the stories of athletes , anger and abuse continues, I hope these few tips will help further conversation in a meaning manner.

We have created a culture around violence and it is glorified in pop culture and in the media. I’m not here to put all of this in historical context because there is a lot of information out there which speaks to the context of violence. However, my position is how violence is used in the world of sports and our women. When a man “puts his hands on a woman”, violence is his issue.

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How To Smack Failure In The Face And Win

By | Life Coaching Tools

Executive Life Coaching Atlanta Style

Just what can you do right here as well as now? In my work as an executive life coach based in Atlanta, GA, I coach people on a daily basis to help them live out their wildest passions. Those aspirations could be around health, professional, travel and in service to others.

life coach atlanta - how to refuse to fail

Just what can you do right here and now?  Let Will Smith, the actor, producer help us in this process.httpvh://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeB-AkTH8YQ . In the video Will Smith speaks very openly about life and living on your own terms. It takes a lot of courage and internal work to move beyond the fear of failure and move into conquering fears.  I coach people on a daily basis to help them live out their wildest passions. Those aspirations could be around health, your business, traveling or being of service to others.

In my talks with others, they have wonderful ideas and plans. Some might jump at the chance to create the amazing novel or get in shape for the marathon.  And also some want to be tie the knot, say I do, or find a life partner.

Today we can still dream. For some of us, they just  don’t fit into our paradigm. At the end of the day, we need to feel connected and to realize they matter on this planet. I say to my clients, ok, let’s move and get started and let us collectively unpack much of what has actually just been put on the table and also what comes out always amazes me.

What follows are questions pertaining to your life’s passions. I’m at a loss for words, not by the question, yet what commonly comes up doing the discovery of passions. I believe we all have this question inside of us which makes us wonder occasionally if we are doing all we may do in our lives.

However, just what drives these internal concerns are instabilities and uncertainty. We at times have problems with moving forward because of the grasp or the stronghold of deep rooted beliefs about ourselves. In order to move forward you have to tackle your self-talk as well as your belief system.

Many of us speak ourselves out of our dreams. “I’m too old to start over.” “I’m not qualified.” “I’m silly to think this can be; I cannot easily leave my job and go after a business dream.”

We literally speak our own selves away from what we have been called to do. I respond by saying, you may not pay to bet small any longer. It is time to play BIG for once in your life. You have work to do and I’m here to help you. You can do it !!

If you are nodding yes as you check out this article and the musings on this site, it is time to Power Up. You have the ability within you to be more of who you are on this day. Just how do you do it you ask?

  1. Do not dread.
  2. Walk within the moment.
  3. Have an end in your head.
  4. Jot it down.
  5. Imagine it; make it genuine in your creative imagination.
  6. Inform the truth.
  7. No, is not a possibility

We at I Speak Life Coaching know to a couple of you this may appear simplified, however, who said to you it had to be hard. It is challenging because you made it difficult. You do not need to make things more difficult.

You do not need to receive agreement from others. You just need to show up as well as realize when you show up all the necessary tools are there to support your dreams coming to life.

The next time you are strolling around and pondering, “what can I do right here and also right now?” begin with this –  refute to fall short!

Refuse to fall short! This might scare you; you may have to make some modifications. You have to ask for help and be open as well as it could also mean saying goodbye to your pride and also what others might be saying or you.

My friends, it doesn’t matter because I refuse to fail.

Part 2 – Online Coaching Around Manhood and Defining It For Ourselves

By | Atlanta Life Coach Online, Online Life Coach Case Studies

Defining Manhood For Ourselves – Life Coaching Exercise

Hi everyone. Here’s the 2nd part of our series on manhood and defining masculinity. If you haven’t reviewed part 1 of this series, you can find it here.

In our 1st in part 1 of this blog post we looked at manhood, how it’s defined, how we define it for ourselves, some of the products that we use and we used Allen Iverson as an example. We talked about some of his losses and his successes.

We looked at several things including the notion held by Dr. Joseph Stolewell that  manhood is running on 3 pistons -pride, passion, and pleasure.

As we wrap up this conversation on manhood and masculinity, we want to go deeper into you where we are and how we can be the man that we want to be. We must deal with our past, our pain, pride and how we walked in the world.


In some ways, this lesson is about stopping the bleeding. We have to deal with how we’ve been socialized as boys who grew up to be men. We have to deal with the messages that we were given, how we were told to behave, and how we were told to walk in the world.

My goal in this lesson is to help us stop the bleeding. Let’s stop walking in our lives in pain and not dealing with our shame or inadequacies.

When the living someone else’s dream or you just haven’t let yourself off the hook for something that happened in your past, today is the day you can stop the bleeding. Stop the bleeding my friend.